1. Poor personal appearance.
2. Inability to express him/herself clearly. Poor voice, diction, grammar.
3. Lack of planning for a career; no purpose or goals.
4. Lack of confidence and poise; nervous, ill-at-ease.
5. Overemphasis on salary.
6. Unwilling to start at bottom; expects too much too soon.
7. Makes excuses; evasive; hedges on unfavorable factors in records.
8. Lack of tact. Lack of courtesy; ill-mannered.
9. Condemnation of past employers.
10. Fails to look interviewer in the eye.
11. Indecision. Merely shopping around.
12. Sloppy application.
13. Over-elaboration of details of experience.
14. Wants job only for a short time.
15. Little sense of humor. Cynical.
16. Lack of knowledge of field of specialization.
17. No interest in agency.
18. Emphasis on whom he she knows.
19. Unwillingness to go where the agency sends him/her.
Monday, October 6, 2008
Top 11 Principles to SUCCESSFUL life
Success is not just reserved for a chosen few. Everyone, yes everyone, has the capacity to be successful in every area of his or her life. Success results from cultivating certain habits and sticking to them.
Consistency is a must. Successful people have a certain type of personality. Successful people think in a particular way, talk in a particular way and act in a particular way.
Do you want to be successful too? Here are 11 principles of success that are bound to help you if you follow them.
1. Develop a clear vision of what exactly you want to achieve in your life. Carry this vision in your mind at all times. This is the starting point to success.
2. Believe without any doubt that you will achieve your dreams.
3. Stay away from negative influences such as negative people, books, articles, etc. Surround yourself with things that boost your belief in yourself and your future success.
4. Take responsibility for your future. Do not depend on anybody. Take responsibility for your life and don't doubt success.
5. Make a habit of repeating positive affirmations. Speak out your affirmations in present tense as opposed to future tense. Writing down affirmations is even more effective. This helps your mind stay fixed and focused on your goals. This is also a good way to build your self-confidence and deepen your beliefs.
6. Make a firm commitment to action. Once you decide to take action, stay committed and never give up! Once you deter from commitment, your belief becomes shaky and unstable. If this happens, your efforts will collapse like a deck of cards. You will have wasted all the time and energy you invested in your efforts. So stay committed.
7. Set a specific goal. If you know what you really want to achieve, you need to define it by making it a goal. Set specific goals. Your goals should be precise, measurable, realistic and timed.
8. Work out a plan of action. Break down your plan into smaller tasks or units. Do your task in smaller steps. Take one step or two each day while reminding yourself that each step is taking you closer to your goal. Your actions should be filled with faith, determination and purpose. Consistency is vital to reach your goal.
9. Never give up until you have achieved what you desire. Persistence is the key to success. Treat every failure as a learning opportunity. But push yourself towards your goal with stronger faith.
10. Maintain an attitude of gratitude, realizing that your dream is becoming a reality. Look around you and be grateful for things that you already have such as a home, loving family, etc. Just stay grateful.
11. Be a giver - give your time, money and service to others. Be kind and generous to all.
Now you know the principles of success. Act on it with faith and persistence - and never give up!
Consistency is a must. Successful people have a certain type of personality. Successful people think in a particular way, talk in a particular way and act in a particular way.
Do you want to be successful too? Here are 11 principles of success that are bound to help you if you follow them.
1. Develop a clear vision of what exactly you want to achieve in your life. Carry this vision in your mind at all times. This is the starting point to success.
2. Believe without any doubt that you will achieve your dreams.
3. Stay away from negative influences such as negative people, books, articles, etc. Surround yourself with things that boost your belief in yourself and your future success.
4. Take responsibility for your future. Do not depend on anybody. Take responsibility for your life and don't doubt success.
5. Make a habit of repeating positive affirmations. Speak out your affirmations in present tense as opposed to future tense. Writing down affirmations is even more effective. This helps your mind stay fixed and focused on your goals. This is also a good way to build your self-confidence and deepen your beliefs.
6. Make a firm commitment to action. Once you decide to take action, stay committed and never give up! Once you deter from commitment, your belief becomes shaky and unstable. If this happens, your efforts will collapse like a deck of cards. You will have wasted all the time and energy you invested in your efforts. So stay committed.
7. Set a specific goal. If you know what you really want to achieve, you need to define it by making it a goal. Set specific goals. Your goals should be precise, measurable, realistic and timed.
8. Work out a plan of action. Break down your plan into smaller tasks or units. Do your task in smaller steps. Take one step or two each day while reminding yourself that each step is taking you closer to your goal. Your actions should be filled with faith, determination and purpose. Consistency is vital to reach your goal.
9. Never give up until you have achieved what you desire. Persistence is the key to success. Treat every failure as a learning opportunity. But push yourself towards your goal with stronger faith.
10. Maintain an attitude of gratitude, realizing that your dream is becoming a reality. Look around you and be grateful for things that you already have such as a home, loving family, etc. Just stay grateful.
11. Be a giver - give your time, money and service to others. Be kind and generous to all.
Now you know the principles of success. Act on it with faith and persistence - and never give up!
4 Magical ways to improve Self Confidence that leads to Success
Devolop your confidence
Here are some helpful tips to build self confidence one success at a time.
1. Make a list of your strong points.
All the positive things about yourself and the things that you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have received or things that come easily to you. It doesn't matter what it is, if it's good, write it down.
2. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to improve even more.
It's important to succeed and by concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will have a better chance of becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success builds upon success.
3. Exude confidence even if you don't feel like it.
Talk to yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from negative thoughts and people as you can.
Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit and one that will build confidence.
4. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to doing.
It can change your life and help your confidence level to rise. See yourself as the self confident person you want to be and before you know it you will become that person.
If you have a set-back do not let it get the best of you. Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and how good it felt and then try again and each time will help you to build confidence and confidence building will become a way of life.
Here are some helpful tips to build self confidence one success at a time.
1. Make a list of your strong points.
All the positive things about yourself and the things that you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have received or things that come easily to you. It doesn't matter what it is, if it's good, write it down.
2. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to improve even more.
It's important to succeed and by concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will have a better chance of becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success builds upon success.
3. Exude confidence even if you don't feel like it.
Talk to yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from negative thoughts and people as you can.
Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit and one that will build confidence.
4. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to doing.
It can change your life and help your confidence level to rise. See yourself as the self confident person you want to be and before you know it you will become that person.
If you have a set-back do not let it get the best of you. Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and how good it felt and then try again and each time will help you to build confidence and confidence building will become a way of life.
10 Tips To Boost Ur Confidence
1.Don’t put yourself down
2.Don’t apologize for being you
3.Be decisive don’t say may be. Say yes or no
4.Don’t say I can’t instead say, may be I can I’ll try it
5.Don’t procrastinate (postponing)
6.Think about your positive points
7.Volunteer more often
8.Dream a little
9. Set Goals.
10.Play the part
2.Don’t apologize for being you
3.Be decisive don’t say may be. Say yes or no
4.Don’t say I can’t instead say, may be I can I’ll try it
5.Don’t procrastinate (postponing)
6.Think about your positive points
7.Volunteer more often
8.Dream a little
9. Set Goals.
10.Play the part
18 Ways to Improve your Body Language
1. Don’t cross your arms or legs – You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.
2. Have eye contact, but don’t stare – If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure.
3. Don’t be afraid to take up some space – Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.
4. Relax your shoulders – When you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.
5. Nod when they are talking – nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.
6. Don’t slouch, sit up straight – but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.
7. Lean, but not too much – If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you’re confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don’t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.
8. Smile and laugh – lighten up, don’t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don’t keep a smile plastered on your face, you’ll seem insincere.
9. Don’t touch your face – it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.
10. Keep you head up - Don’t keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.
11. Slow down a bit – this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don’t snap you’re neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.
12. Don’t fidget – try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. You’ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across.
13. Use your hands more confidently – instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make.
14. Lower your drink – don’t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don’t hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.
15. Realise where you spine ends – many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-pose
16. Don’t stand too close –one of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don’t invade it.
17. Mirror - Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person’s body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring.
18. Keep a good attitude – last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference. For information on how make yourself feel better read 10 ways to change how you feel and for relaxation try A very simple way to feel relaxed for 24 hours.
2. Have eye contact, but don’t stare – If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure.
3. Don’t be afraid to take up some space – Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.
4. Relax your shoulders – When you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.
5. Nod when they are talking – nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.
6. Don’t slouch, sit up straight – but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.
7. Lean, but not too much – If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you’re confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don’t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.
8. Smile and laugh – lighten up, don’t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don’t keep a smile plastered on your face, you’ll seem insincere.
9. Don’t touch your face – it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.
10. Keep you head up - Don’t keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.
11. Slow down a bit – this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don’t snap you’re neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.
12. Don’t fidget – try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. You’ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across.
13. Use your hands more confidently – instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make.
14. Lower your drink – don’t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don’t hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.
15. Realise where you spine ends – many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-pose
16. Don’t stand too close –one of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don’t invade it.
17. Mirror - Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person’s body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring.
18. Keep a good attitude – last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference. For information on how make yourself feel better read 10 ways to change how you feel and for relaxation try A very simple way to feel relaxed for 24 hours.
Avoid These 10 Resume Mistakes
1. Resume lacks focus
2. Resume is duties-driven instead of accomplishments-driven.
3. Resume items are listed in an order that doesn't consider the reader's interest.
4. Resume exposes the job-seeker to age discrimination by going too far back into the job-seeker's job history.
5. Resume buries important skills, especially computer skills, at the bottom.
6. Resume is not bulleted.
7. Resume uses a cookie-cutter design based on an overused resume template.
8. Resume lacks keywords
9. References are listed directly on your resume.
10. Resume's appearance becomes skewed when sent as an e-mail attachment and/or resume is not available in other electronic formats.
2. Resume is duties-driven instead of accomplishments-driven.
3. Resume items are listed in an order that doesn't consider the reader's interest.
4. Resume exposes the job-seeker to age discrimination by going too far back into the job-seeker's job history.
5. Resume buries important skills, especially computer skills, at the bottom.
6. Resume is not bulleted.
7. Resume uses a cookie-cutter design based on an overused resume template.
8. Resume lacks keywords
9. References are listed directly on your resume.
10. Resume's appearance becomes skewed when sent as an e-mail attachment and/or resume is not available in other electronic formats.
Do You Want to Improve Your English Speaking Skill
Nowadays English is essential to work in all the fields in any industry. Do you want to improve your English communication skill? Then start practicing it. English is very easy to learn; through constant practice anyone can handle this language. There are many things which contribute to good spoken English, but an important question for you is this: How then can you improve your spoken English? How can you try to put your resolution to improve into practice? Here are some concrete things you can do on your own to improve your English. But you should make it practice in your daily life, take a resolution and try to improve English communication skill confidently.
• Listen your friends’ speech and learn grammar, vocabulary and also learn how to communicate with out any mistakes.
• Listen to the radio. You could get up five minutes earlier and listen to the news in English.
• Watch TV programs to improve your listening skills. Try watching the news in English instead of your mother tongue. If you watch a movie and it has subtitles, try taping a paper over them. Listening to news reader’s talk is a good preparation for talking yourself.
• Read more. Not just newspapers and magazines, novels too.
• Refer to the dictionary and a grammar book (like Wren and Martin), while reading. Make it a habit.
• Do crosswords. They help to increase one's vocabulary and also urge you to think.
• Invite your English teacher to have lunch! Find a friend who also wants to improve his or her English and have lunch or dinner together - speaking in English of course.
• Watch for notices of English activities and join in whenever you can.
• Find books-on-tape in the local library. Listen when you are relaxing at home or when you are commuting if you have a walkman.
• Choose famous people who accent you admire, and if you can get recordings of him or her, imitate the way he or she speaks.
• Practice situations when you are alone, perhaps in front of a mirror. Imagine when you are introducing yourself, disagreeing with someone's ideas, being interviewed or asking for information. If you can get someone to help, assign parts and do the role play
• Exchange tapped messages with a classmate. Record a few minutes and then ask your classmate to respond later on the same tape.
• Practice reading aloud - get someone to check your pronunciation and intonation, or record yourself on tape and analyze your own speech
• If you have a chance to travel, take advantage of the opportunities to use English - airlines and immigration personnel, hotel and restaurant staff, fellow travelers and passengers. Visit a former English teacher either from secondary school or from a course you took at the university. Teachers like to hear how their students are doing.
• Improve your vocabulary- You could come across these anywhere -- while reading, on a news channel, on a sign at the shopping mall, on a billboard, etc. Make the effort to look up the exact meaning of the word in the dictionary, instead of adopting the easier route of understanding the meaning from the context. If possible, maintain a book where you can note down the new words everyday, along with the context, so you remember them better.
• Prepare for small talk-Speaking English fluently is not just about making corporate presentations and giving long speeches. It is about expressing your views on the most mundane of things. The ability to make small talk is very important in business and social conversations. You can select any topics like sports whether current affairs, arts, hobbies, travel, etc Talk about it with someone close to you so you can check for grammatical accuracy
• Make mistakes-With out making mistakes you can learn anything .It is from the mistake you learn the right one. It is the same with language. If you do not use the language, you will never know how good you are at it. Speak with others frankly and ask them to help you, whenever you make mistake. Do not be embarrassed to make mistakes, for that is the only way you will learn. That is how the process of acquiring fluency a language occurs. As a child, you may have made a lot of mistakes before getting a good grasp of your mother tongue. The only difference now is that you are conscious of the mistakes
Everyone knows that the only really effective way to improve on language skills is to use the language. In reality, however, we know that there are many reasons why people don't want to speak in another language - they are afraid of making mistakes, they can't express their real meaning easily. Moreover, they are shy and afraid of the people who will laugh at them. We all feel this way sometimes, but if you really want to improve your spoken English, try some of the suggestions we have made here. Once you try putting some of these ideas and principles into practice, the cat will have a very hard time getting your tongue!
• Listen your friends’ speech and learn grammar, vocabulary and also learn how to communicate with out any mistakes.
• Listen to the radio. You could get up five minutes earlier and listen to the news in English.
• Watch TV programs to improve your listening skills. Try watching the news in English instead of your mother tongue. If you watch a movie and it has subtitles, try taping a paper over them. Listening to news reader’s talk is a good preparation for talking yourself.
• Read more. Not just newspapers and magazines, novels too.
• Refer to the dictionary and a grammar book (like Wren and Martin), while reading. Make it a habit.
• Do crosswords. They help to increase one's vocabulary and also urge you to think.
• Invite your English teacher to have lunch! Find a friend who also wants to improve his or her English and have lunch or dinner together - speaking in English of course.
• Watch for notices of English activities and join in whenever you can.
• Find books-on-tape in the local library. Listen when you are relaxing at home or when you are commuting if you have a walkman.
• Choose famous people who accent you admire, and if you can get recordings of him or her, imitate the way he or she speaks.
• Practice situations when you are alone, perhaps in front of a mirror. Imagine when you are introducing yourself, disagreeing with someone's ideas, being interviewed or asking for information. If you can get someone to help, assign parts and do the role play
• Exchange tapped messages with a classmate. Record a few minutes and then ask your classmate to respond later on the same tape.
• Practice reading aloud - get someone to check your pronunciation and intonation, or record yourself on tape and analyze your own speech
• If you have a chance to travel, take advantage of the opportunities to use English - airlines and immigration personnel, hotel and restaurant staff, fellow travelers and passengers. Visit a former English teacher either from secondary school or from a course you took at the university. Teachers like to hear how their students are doing.
• Improve your vocabulary- You could come across these anywhere -- while reading, on a news channel, on a sign at the shopping mall, on a billboard, etc. Make the effort to look up the exact meaning of the word in the dictionary, instead of adopting the easier route of understanding the meaning from the context. If possible, maintain a book where you can note down the new words everyday, along with the context, so you remember them better.
• Prepare for small talk-Speaking English fluently is not just about making corporate presentations and giving long speeches. It is about expressing your views on the most mundane of things. The ability to make small talk is very important in business and social conversations. You can select any topics like sports whether current affairs, arts, hobbies, travel, etc Talk about it with someone close to you so you can check for grammatical accuracy
• Make mistakes-With out making mistakes you can learn anything .It is from the mistake you learn the right one. It is the same with language. If you do not use the language, you will never know how good you are at it. Speak with others frankly and ask them to help you, whenever you make mistake. Do not be embarrassed to make mistakes, for that is the only way you will learn. That is how the process of acquiring fluency a language occurs. As a child, you may have made a lot of mistakes before getting a good grasp of your mother tongue. The only difference now is that you are conscious of the mistakes
Everyone knows that the only really effective way to improve on language skills is to use the language. In reality, however, we know that there are many reasons why people don't want to speak in another language - they are afraid of making mistakes, they can't express their real meaning easily. Moreover, they are shy and afraid of the people who will laugh at them. We all feel this way sometimes, but if you really want to improve your spoken English, try some of the suggestions we have made here. Once you try putting some of these ideas and principles into practice, the cat will have a very hard time getting your tongue!
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